I had a pretty late night with Jake last night. For him, being hyper coincides with needing less sleep than a normal person. I used to be like that, but I'm constantly burning the candle at both ends lately, and buddy I NEED SOME SLEEP. Once Jake finally fell asleep, I twittered the following two items to help me process the evening so I could try to sleep:
1. Sometimes the understanding of Jake's neuro issues and hyper-activity is all that keeps me from freaking out at him. He's a lot sometimes.
2. I DID tell him, if (A) were your mother, she would have screamed at you by now, and if (B) were your mother, she would have spanked you.
When I said that, his response was "Well you're a better mother than they are."
HAHA. Umm, thanks?
Anyway.
This morning I was having an email conversation with a co-worker across campus, regarding getting overwhelmed in our day jobs as secretaries / office drones (when really we are creative types bent on CREATING!) She mentioned she already had a slight stress break-down that morning, and this was my reply:
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Seriously, just take it one thing at a time. Detach yourself from emotion involved in a task – a task is a task. No value judgment needed. It’s ok to say no, or “I don’t have an answer for that right now. Let me take your name and number.”
I have had to learn to detach myself from emotions and the situation I’m in because of Jake. Sometimes when he’s being ridiculous or having a melt-down, I have to go through the motions, feelings turned off, until the crisis is over. The words I use are statements rather than emotion-filled interactions. Otherwise I’m reacting to him and escalating the problem rather than diffusing it.
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Are you able to find a place of detachment to deal with high stress situations? Or do your emotions get the best of you?
